@rose_myrtle @atyh It's weird, but I've never really thought about it like that. It's true. I really think most people who patronize actually think they are being loving. On a similar note, I'm super hard on my wife when she makes a mistake. It's really no different than how I talk to myself when I screw up, but I'm trying to work on it. It is difficult, but maybe having gentleness is worth the price of some foolishness?